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Weeds in the Garden

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tools_garden“If we remain faithful to the ideals we strive for, all the tests will only make us stronger.”- Radhanath Swami.

Once there was a beautiful garden. The gardeners would toil endlessly – planting, pruning, weeding – to make it fresh and blooming.

One day, the gardeners went to the head gardener and said, “All this work is very tiring. We want to offer special prayers and ask the demigod in charge of plant life for a boon.” Thus they invoked that demigod through prayers.

“What is it you wish?” asked the demigod. They said, “Oh lord! We are tired of all the work we have to do to make the garden beautiful. The worst is weeding. Please grant us that there will be no weeds in the garden.”

“So be it!” said the demigod.

That day onwards, no weeds grew in the garden. The gardeners were relaxed and at ease. Their work had reduced by half. Thus passed a few days. Slowly, the plants in the garden started wilting. They looked limp and listless. The gardeners became worried. Their garden was no longer beautiful. They invoked the demigod again and complained.”What has happened, lord? Why are our plants wilting? ”

The demigod said, “There cannot be a garden without weeds. You cannot tell the weeds not to grow. When they grow, you must remove them. That is how the soil gets turned and oxygenated. That’s how plants thrive.”

And that is how it is with the pinpricks of family life. They help us to grow and come closer to God, when done with the right consciousness. Any challenges and problems must be dealt with. We cannot wish them away.

The more weeding you do, the more beautiful your garden becomes. The more negativity you remove in married life, the more beautiful your relationship with your spouse becomes, and the more your family becomes united with God in the centre!

 

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  1. September 26, 2013

    Aishwarya

    Everything comes with a price!

  2. September 29, 2013

    Tallam Sita Ramaiah

    “The more negativity you remove in married life, the more beautiful your relationship with your spouse becomes, and the more your family becomes united with God in the centre!” Very useful article for all grihastas.

  3. September 30, 2013

    Aishwarya

    “If we remain faithful to the ideals we strive for, all the tests will only make us stronger.”-Thanks for your inspiring words.

  4. September 30, 2013

    anjanadri

    Thank you very much swamiji for your very practical answer for a happy married life.

  5. October 1, 2013

    Aishwarya

    “The more negativity you remove in married life, the more beautiful your relationship with your spouse becomes, and the more your family becomes united with God in the centre!-“very instruction.

  6. October 1, 2013

    Chandrika

    A very beautiful statement – And that is how it is with the pinpricks of family life. They help us to grow and come closer to God, when done with the right consciousness. Any challenges and problems must be dealt with. We cannot wish them away.

  7. October 1, 2013

    Raj

    We cannot avoid these problems because there is something we need to learn from them. So beautifully said.

  8. October 2, 2013

    Sha

    “And that is how it is with the pinpricks of family life. They help us to grow and come closer to God, when done with the right consciousness. Any challenges and problems must be dealt with. We cannot wish them away”
    HH Radhanath Swami Maharaj ki jai!
    We cant stop difficulties from coming, we need to take shelter of Krishna & His devotees to overcome them…

  9. October 3, 2013

    ASH

    Every thing has a role to play.

  10. October 4, 2013

    Kuldeep Soni

    Thanks for sharing this !!

  11. October 4, 2013

    Kalpana Kulkarni

    The more negativity you remove in married life, the more beautiful your relationship with your spouse becomes, and the more your family becomes united with God in the centre! – Wonderful advice!

  12. October 5, 2013

    Ravi Garg

    Wonderful instructive story for a happy married life……

  13. October 5, 2013

    Y. Raja Shekar

    Nice analogy to improve our relationships by tolerating and removing the weeds like negativism. Its become more easy in the association of great devotees like HH Radhanath Swami.

  14. October 6, 2013

    Citra Gopi

    A timely and wonderful post.

  15. October 7, 2013

    Aishwarya

    Thanks for sharing.

  16. October 8, 2013

    Y.Raja Shekar

    HH Radhanath Swami himself under went so many tests successfully to realise the inner strength and able to distribute to every one.

  17. October 14, 2013

    Citra Gopi

    Wonderful take home messages.

  18. October 18, 2013

    Sharmila

    Such a wonderful post.

  19. October 21, 2013

    Citra Gopi

    Beautiful narration.

  20. October 26, 2013

    Poonam kamath

    I learnt my lesson……

  21. October 27, 2013

    Chandrika

    Truly a moving article.

  22. November 7, 2013

    Sada Nandini

    This is such a wonderful article explaining how to deal the problems in life with a very simple example.

  23. November 21, 2013

    sagar w

    What a beautiful example to clear the doubts of one about having weeds in life. Its also said: failures are stepping stoned to success. One point is important that we need to keep learning in our life from mistakes we do. So, enjoy learning.

  24. February 24, 2014

    Balaram Acharya Das

    Great Article. Thank you for sharing.

  25. March 9, 2014

    Prashanth Naik

    Krishna is the ONLY well-wisher of jivas………!

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