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The Recruit

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The RecruitOne young academically excellent person went to apply for a managerial position in a big company.

He passed all the interviews and the final interview was with the director who would then make the decision for the young man’s recruitment.

The director discovered from the CV that the youth’s academic achievements were excellent all the way, from the secondary school until the postgraduate research, never had a year when he did not score.

The director asked, “Did you obtain any scholarships in school?” the youth answered “none.”

The director asked, ” Was it your father who paid for your school fees?” The youth answered, “My father passed away when I was one year old, it was my mother who paid for my school fees.

The director asked, ” Where did your mother work?” The youth answered, “My mother worked as clothes cleaner. The director requested the youth to show his hands. The youth showed a pair of hands that were smooth and perfect.

The director asked, ” Have you ever helped your mother wash the clothes before?” The youth answered, “Never, my mother always wanted me to study and read more books. Furthermore, my mother can wash clothes faster than me.

The director said, “I have a request. When you go back today, go and clean your mother’s hands, and then see me tomorrow morning”.

The youth felt that his chance of landing the job was high. When he went back, he happily requested his mother to let him clean her hands. His mother felt strange, happy but with mixed feelings, she showed her hands to her son.

The youth cleaned his mother’s hands slowly. His tear fell as he did that. It was the first time he noticed that his mother’s hands were so wrinkled, and there were so many bruises in her hands. Some bruises were so painful that his mother shivered when they were cleaned with water.

This was the first time the youth realized that it was this pair of hands that washed the clothes everyday to enable him to pay the school fee. The bruises in the mother’s hands were the price that the mother had to pay for his graduation, academic excellence and his future.

After finishing the cleaning of his mother hands, the youth quietly washed all the remaining clothes for his mother.

That night, mother and son talked for a very long time. Next morning, the youth went to the director’s office.

The Director noticed the tears in the youth’s eyes, asked: ” Can you tell me what have you done and learned yesterday in your house?”

The youth humbly answered, ” I cleaned my mother’s hand, and finished cleaning all the remaining clothes’

The Director asked, “please tell me what you learnt.”

The youth admitted that after cleaning his mother’s hands and helping her, he realized what a tough and selfless life she has led for his sake and thanked the director for having given him an opportunity to appreciate his mother’s sacrifices and the value of family relationships.

The director seemed satisfied. He said,” You are hired.”

Radhanath Swami concludes ‘Where there is necessity, there is deeper appreciation.’ Especially in family relationships, there is a tendency to take the other members of the family for granted and not appreciate their care, love or sacrifices. We must learn to stop by and seek to understand their love and sacrifices for us and learn to appreciate them genuinely and thereby help in building a caring & nurturing atmosphere at home.

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  1. April 26, 2013

    Rajendra Prasad

    Unfortunately, the situation described here applies to most of us. Either we have have forgotten to appreiciate pepole who cared & loved us or we are reluctant to do so. We must learn to understand their love and sacrifices for us and learn to appreciate them genuinely.

  2. April 29, 2013

    Dr Satpute Satchidanand R

    Touching example. Really it is of great important to value the hard work our near and dear once have done, and appreciate them for loving relationship. then life would be more joyful and rich.

  3. May 3, 2013

    Sudhanshu Acharya

    Wonderful ! I felt emotions reading this.
    Earlier the youth was selfish, but the mother didn’t mind it. That is a great quality.
    Some people do everything selflessly. We can’t repay it. All we can do is to learn to be selfless to them and to all.

  4. May 5, 2013

    Kalpana Kulkarni

    We should learn to be grateful and appreciate what people have done for us. Gratitude is a virtue that needs to be cultivated for progress in both material and spiritual lives.

  5. May 5, 2013

    Y. Raja Shekar

    So heart touching story. HH Radhanath Swami always stresses the quality of appreciation and gratitude which is the most essential quality for developing spirituality and love of God.

  6. May 6, 2013

    Rajaruban

    It makes you remember all the troubles our mothers have gone through to help us.

  7. May 11, 2013

    Citra Gopi DD

    Appreciation and gratitude are such important qualities.

  8. May 12, 2013

    Nandkishor das

    Especially in family relationships, there is a tendency to take the other members of the family for granted and not appreciate their care, love or sacrifices. We must learn to stop by and seek to understand their love and sacrifices for us and learn to appreciate them genuinely and thereby help in building a caring & nurturing atmosphere at home.

  9. May 14, 2013

    Y. Raja Shekar

    Truely heart touching story. HH Radhanath Swami always emphasises the importance of caring for others, if we really want to enter into the realm of kigdom of God.

  10. May 17, 2013

    Y. Raja Shekar

    As HH Radhanath Swami always teaches, gratitude is the quality which revives our everlasting love towards all living entities and also towards God.

  11. May 18, 2013

    Y. Raja Shekar

    This is very true. As HH Radhanath Swami warns, we should take excellent care of our family members, especially the dependents as it is said “Charity begins at home”.

  12. June 7, 2013

    bsdd

    appreciation to others comes very slowly, but while taking credit we are always in the forefront. Thankyou Maharaj for opening our eyes and making us realise the importance of appreciation and gratitude for our near and dear ones, whom we especially tend to ignore or take for granted

  13. June 8, 2013

    vaishali kamat

    Thanks for sharing this story. Mother’s love and care for her children is unconditional and most of us take that for granted. Thank you Radhanath Swami for making us realise this.

  14. June 8, 2013

    Sanjiv

    I think this is a wonderful story. What is important is the last line that We must “help in building a caring & nurturing atmosphere at home.”

  15. June 11, 2013

    Sahil Khosla

    Thanks Radhanath Swami Maharaj, for giving us such a valuable lessons of not taking sacrifices of our family members especially our parents cheaply and to be grateful to them for making us what we are.

  16. June 20, 2013

    Aishwarya

    Heart touching. Selfless love and service can never be repaid. At least one must reciprocate.

  17. October 4, 2013

    Sha

    “We must learn to stop by and seek to understand their love and sacrifices for us and learn to appreciate them genuinely and thereby help in building a caring & nurturing atmosphere at home.”
    HH Radhanath Swami Maharaj ki jai!

  18. October 9, 2013

    Kalpana Kulkarni

    True! Most of the time we take people in our lives for granted and do not realize the hardships and sacrifices they undergo for us!

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