Responsibility as Parents

/ January 14, 2013 / 36 Comments

I remember, I was a little boy 6 years old. Once my mother said, “Your father is a good person and everyone likes him, but we might have to get divorced.” I started to cry. I was so confused. ‘How is this?’

My mother told my father that I cried. So they decided they would never divorce. ‘We can’t do this to our children.’ And last May they celebrated their 58^th wedding anniversary.

That is integrity, that is compassion. That is what parents are supposed to do. Marriage is responsibility. Responsibility to each other as husband and wife; responsibility for the mental, physical and spiritual well being of the children. Do you know that 92% of juvenile deliquescence in the United States of America is children coming from divorced or broken house parents? This is Federal statistics. 97% of juveniles in prison are coming from broken marriages. But people like to politely protect their own desires and needs by saying, “We will do it smoothly, it won’t disturb the children.”

Why so much conflict within marriage? Because instead of thinking in terms of ‘we’, we are thinking in terms of ‘me’ and ‘mine’ – selfishness, ego.

– Radhanath Swami

January 14, 2013
umesh

Here Radhanath Swami points out the crux of the matter.. thinking in terms of me and mine instead of we..

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January 14, 2013
anjan

Thank you swami Radhanath for this blog. This is a sure-shot eye opener for the people of the world.

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January 15, 2013
Rajshekhar Bhat

Marriage is responsibility. Responsibility to each other as husband and wife; responsibility for the mental, physical and spiritual well being of the children. If people understand this, most of the problems are solved and people can lead a happy life.

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January 16, 2013
Phani Karthik

Heart touching ! and beautifully explained with a simple personal life example. Thank you.

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January 16, 2013
bharat

The need of hour as maharaj truly said is to move towards ‘we’ rather than ‘me’ in a married life.

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January 16, 2013
sri vallabhi dd

Very true marriage is a responsibility which every married person should undergo.

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January 16, 2013
Prajakta Timbe

H.H.Radhanath maharaj given his own parents example which is very inspiring.Thank you very much maharaj for teaching importance of taking responsibility together in marriage.

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January 17, 2013
Vishnu

Thank you Radhanath Maharaj for sharing this heart touching moment from your life.
Sure i will think as ‘we’ and not ‘me’

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January 17, 2013
Srivatsan

Very thought provoking point by Radhanath Swami. Self centered life creates problem’s in one’s own and dependent’s lives.
Shocked to hear the statistics!

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January 18, 2013
Goraksha

thank you maharaj. for guiding devotees in the grahestha ashram and for making us to develop the values.

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January 19, 2013
Madhuri priti DD

If we simply serve each other without any much expectation then there will be nice bonding.. Thanks for sharing this…

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January 19, 2013
Rajeev

THis is exemplary, we should learn to be selfless and practice it in our own lives.

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January 20, 2013
Chiraag Goel

Wonderful article..Thank you very much Maharaj for enlightening us !

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January 23, 2013
Prahalad Kaul

Very true, ego is root cause of all relationship breaks. Gratitude & humility erases this ego.

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January 24, 2013
Keshav

Marriage is responsibility. Responsibility to each other as husband and wife; responsibility for the mental, physical and spiritual well being of the children!!!!

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January 25, 2013
sundarkanai das

What a wonderful parenting tip ! THIS MOOD REALLY GIVES THE PARENTS A SOLID REASON TO POSITIVELY TOLERATE EACH OTHERS DIFFERENCES FOR A HIGHER PURPOSE ! Or else there is simply no clue why at all should i tolerate my partner. Thank u so much Radhanath swami for sharing this deep profound experience from your life for the betterment of all the couples.

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January 25, 2013
savin

Nice suggestion… but both should have the same mentality .. of being responsible.. else, one party will continue to enjoy freedom and the other will suffer or will have to compromise…

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January 27, 2013
Sumit Sharma

Radhanath Swami has been teaching many people about how to best bring up their children.

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January 27, 2013
Ashish Kokate

A perfect message for each n every one…. Thank You

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January 28, 2013
pavan

The very basis of marriage is responsibity , integrity

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January 28, 2013
Rajshekhar

Nice article on integrity and sacrifice that parents need to exhibit.

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February 8, 2013
anjan

Thanks to swamiji for sharing his words of wisdom on how a husband and wife should live for the benefit of the children and the whole family.

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February 11, 2013
Vinay Bhat

Integrity, responsibility are the austerity that we need to take to relish our married life.

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February 17, 2013
sri vallabhi dd

Yes truely every parent should sacrifice for children.

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February 18, 2013
Vinay Malani

Radhanath Swami has perfectly analysed the problems within a marital relation. We think individually instead of thinking as a couple or as responsible parents, thus leading to conflict of interests, desires & ego.

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February 23, 2013
Vinay Malani

This is a wonderful article by Radhanath Swami. It will help us all to be responsible parents & take care of our children, materially as well as spiritually.

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April 8, 2013
Nandkishor das

Big cheat–“We will do it smoothly, it won’t disturb the children”

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May 3, 2013
Kalpana kulkarni

We should develop tolerance to maintain relationships

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May 8, 2013
Y. Raja Shekar

I fully agree with HH Radhanath Swami’s sacred views. Divorce should be banned all over the world as it really affects the tender hearts of children and society too.

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June 7, 2013
anjan

With deep love, Radhanath swami has pointed out the need to avoid divorce between husband and wife for the sake of innocent children. I pray and hope that the selfish people of this world take this good advide from swami Radhanath.

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August 11, 2013
Tallam Sita Ramaiah

“Marriage is responsibility. Responsibility to each other as husband and wife; responsibility for the mental, physical and spiritual well being of the children.” This is good reminder to all married couples to meditate upon the purpose of marriage.

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September 2, 2013
Ravi Garg

Very instructive article……Thanks

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September 6, 2013
Raj

This is very evident in the world of today.

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September 10, 2013
Kalpana Kulkarni

Wonderful advice as to how to be responsible parents.

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September 10, 2013
Raj

Such a change of heart – so beautiful.

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September 22, 2013
Chandrika

So much to take from this post.

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