I remember, I was a little boy 6 years old. Once my mother said, “Your father is a good person and everyone likes him, but we might have to get divorced.” I started to cry. I was so confused. ‘How is this?’
My mother told my father that I cried. So they decided they would never divorce. ‘We can’t do this to our children.’ And last May they celebrated their 58th wedding anniversary.
That is integrity, that is compassion. That is what parents are supposed to do. Marriage is responsibility. Responsibility to each other as husband and wife; responsibility for the mental, physical and spiritual well being of the children. Do you know that 92% of juvenile deliquescence in the United States of America is children coming from divorced or broken house parents? This is Federal statistics. 97% of juveniles in prison are coming from broken marriages. But people like to politely protect their own desires and needs by saying, “We will do it smoothly, it won’t disturb the children.”
Why so much conflict within marriage? Because instead of thinking in terms of ‘we’, we are thinking in terms of ‘me’ and ‘mine’ – selfishness, ego.
umesh
Here Radhanath Swami points out the crux of the matter.. thinking in terms of me and mine instead of we..
anjan
Thank you swami Radhanath for this blog. This is a sure-shot eye opener for the people of the world.
Rajshekhar Bhat
Marriage is responsibility. Responsibility to each other as husband and wife; responsibility for the mental, physical and spiritual well being of the children. If people understand this, most of the problems are solved and people can lead a happy life.
Phani Karthik
Heart touching ! and beautifully explained with a simple personal life example. Thank you.
bharat
The need of hour as maharaj truly said is to move towards ‘we’ rather than ‘me’ in a married life.
sri vallabhi dd
Very true marriage is a responsibility which every married person should undergo.
Prajakta Timbe
H.H.Radhanath maharaj given his own parents example which is very inspiring.Thank you very much maharaj for teaching importance of taking responsibility together in marriage.
Vishnu
Thank you Radhanath Maharaj for sharing this heart touching moment from your life.
Sure i will think as ‘we’ and not ‘me’
Srivatsan
Very thought provoking point by Radhanath Swami. Self centered life creates problem’s in one’s own and dependent’s lives.
Shocked to hear the statistics!
Goraksha
thank you maharaj. for guiding devotees in the grahestha ashram and for making us to develop the values.
Madhuri priti DD
If we simply serve each other without any much expectation then there will be nice bonding.. Thanks for sharing this…
Rajeev
THis is exemplary, we should learn to be selfless and practice it in our own lives.
Chiraag Goel
Wonderful article..Thank you very much Maharaj for enlightening us !
Prahalad Kaul
Very true, ego is root cause of all relationship breaks. Gratitude & humility erases this ego.
Keshav
Marriage is responsibility. Responsibility to each other as husband and wife; responsibility for the mental, physical and spiritual well being of the children!!!!
sundarkanai das
What a wonderful parenting tip ! THIS MOOD REALLY GIVES THE PARENTS A SOLID REASON TO POSITIVELY TOLERATE EACH OTHERS DIFFERENCES FOR A HIGHER PURPOSE ! Or else there is simply no clue why at all should i tolerate my partner. Thank u so much Radhanath swami for sharing this deep profound experience from your life for the betterment of all the couples.
savin
Nice suggestion… but both should have the same mentality .. of being responsible.. else, one party will continue to enjoy freedom and the other will suffer or will have to compromise…
Sumit Sharma
Radhanath Swami has been teaching many people about how to best bring up their children.
Ashish Kokate
A perfect message for each n every one…. Thank You
pavan
The very basis of marriage is responsibity , integrity
Rajshekhar
Nice article on integrity and sacrifice that parents need to exhibit.
anjan
Thanks to swamiji for sharing his words of wisdom on how a husband and wife should live for the benefit of the children and the whole family.
Vinay Bhat
Integrity, responsibility are the austerity that we need to take to relish our married life.
sri vallabhi dd
Yes truely every parent should sacrifice for children.
Vinay Malani
Radhanath Swami has perfectly analysed the problems within a marital relation. We think individually instead of thinking as a couple or as responsible parents, thus leading to conflict of interests, desires & ego.
Vinay Malani
This is a wonderful article by Radhanath Swami. It will help us all to be responsible parents & take care of our children, materially as well as spiritually.
Nandkishor das
Big cheat–“We will do it smoothly, it won’t disturb the children”
Kalpana kulkarni
We should develop tolerance to maintain relationships
Y. Raja Shekar
I fully agree with HH Radhanath Swami’s sacred views. Divorce should be banned all over the world as it really affects the tender hearts of children and society too.
anjan
With deep love, Radhanath swami has pointed out the need to avoid divorce between husband and wife for the sake of innocent children. I pray and hope that the selfish people of this world take this good advide from swami Radhanath.
Tallam Sita Ramaiah
“Marriage is responsibility. Responsibility to each other as husband and wife; responsibility for the mental, physical and spiritual well being of the children.” This is good reminder to all married couples to meditate upon the purpose of marriage.
Ravi Garg
Very instructive article……Thanks
Raj
This is very evident in the world of today.
Kalpana Kulkarni
Wonderful advice as to how to be responsible parents.
Raj
Such a change of heart – so beautiful.
Chandrika
So much to take from this post.