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Communicate PerfectionSometimes in marriage we communicate with everyone except the person we are living with. – Radhanath Swami.

Radhanath Swami recounts one of his childhood impressions. Everydayhis mother cooked a loving meal for his father but she thought that her husband didn’t ever like it. So little Radhanath Swami (then Richard) asked his father whether he liked his dinner. His father replied he loved it. Richard asked whether his father has ever told his wife how he liked the dinner? “Well, I think I did… Maybe I didn’t… but she should know Doesn’t she know?”

Generally, spouses take care of fulfilling each other’s physical needs like good housing, clothing, and health. But it’s the lack of emotional care that tends to push marriages off-track. Everyone needs appreciation and encouragement. Each spouse has a responsibility of making the other partner happy by providing him or her a fulfilling life. Mutual respect and care forms the essential framework that supports any successful marriage; mutual affection may come and go. By always clinging on to this framework, the mutual affection can grow into actual deep love connected to the soul.

For example, many ladies think that their husband just doesn’t care for them, that he just doesn’t like anything they do for the husband. But when asked, the husbands say that they really do appreciate their wife a lot, but why should they tell that to her explicitly? Shouldn’t she already know? Radhanth Swami quips that unless the spouse is a mystic, he or she is not going to know how the other spouse feels. Communication is important. Sometimes in marriage the spouses communicate with everyone except the person they live with. Communication amongst spouses is to really express one’s appreciation and affection for each other in encouraging words. Such honest communication is critical for a healthy relationship; the journey of married life can become dreary and unfulfilling otherwise.

Marriage shouldn’t degenerate to a life sentence of tolerance just to respect the vows taken at the time of marriage. A true marriage is dynamic, flowing, and very connected to the divine. Struggles in married life are not depressants, but invigorating spiritual challenges. By  encouraging each other the spouses can face these challenges confidently. Every challenge overcome together takes the spouses to a higher spiritual platform. Indeed, notes Radhanath Swami, such a married life is a path of perfection.


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  1. May 15, 2012

    Arjun K Ramachandra

    Thank you for this fantastic article which makes the vital role of communication absolutely clear.

  2. May 20, 2012

    Vidya Patham

    Thank you for sharing this great article on how challenges in married life are inevitable but the way they are tackled together as spiritual partners is the real test.

  3. May 20, 2012

    Kalpana Kulkarni

    Communication is absolutely necessary. Very true!

  4. September 3, 2012

    Udisha

    Mutual respect and care forms the essential framework that supports any successful marriage;…very true…!

  5. September 4, 2012

    Sandeep Naik Goa

    Thank u sir,

    It was really thought provoking.
    Very relevant in this age wher ter is mis understand even for a small reason.

    it has helped me a lot, I will strongly recomend other to read it . will forward to all mty friends.

  6. September 7, 2012

    Kalpana Kulkarni

    Very true! Communication is sorely lacking woefully with people who are close at home. workplace, etc. Effective communication can get rid of a lot of misunderstandings.

  7. September 10, 2012

    preeti Asrani

    this is really amazing just warm communication can bring closer and happiness in life it help to remove the misunderstanding

  8. September 17, 2012

    Ravi Garg

    COmmunication is indeed very important for a successful marriage………..thanks

  9. September 19, 2012

    Abhinav

    Thank you for such a wonderful article…. Small gestures of appreciation can create big impacts.

  10. September 23, 2012

    Arabinda

    Hare Krishna.
    Wonderful wisdom.
    Thank you.

  11. September 25, 2012

    swathi .k

    Thank you for bringing out this article which we usually take it for granted without not communicating.

  12. September 28, 2012

    Sumit Sharma

    Communication is very important in any type of relationship and Radhanath Swami stresses a lot for building up the relationship among devotees.

  13. September 28, 2012

    Y.Raja Shekar

    HH Radhanath Swami addresses the real core issue of married life and surely the strong communication through appreciation and encouragement boost the relationship between any relations more so between wife and husband.

  14. October 1, 2012

    Manasa

    Communication between wife and husband is very important. Thanks for sharing!!

  15. October 12, 2012

    monish

    very nice articles which taught communication in proper manner is very necessary

  16. October 19, 2012

    Swapnil

    Thank you for bringing the important point of communication and emotional care aspect in this article.

  17. October 25, 2012

    Vinay Jain

    Every challenge overcome together takes the spouses to a higher spiritual platform – Thank you Radhanath Swami for revealing to us this path of perfection in marriage life!

  18. October 26, 2012

    umesh

    A very encouraging article indeed inspired by teachings of Radhanath Swami !

  19. April 30, 2013

    Dr Satpute Satchidanand R

    Very inspiring thought. Caring for person who is so close, constant companion in house is very important to be taken care off. and that person can become your good friend, welwisher and life would be much more fulfilling great thought thanks!.

  20. September 4, 2013

    Kalpana Kulkarni

    True! Effective Communication is the basis of any relationship!

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