“Like a radio antenna constantly emitting circles of energy, our hearts naturally want to constantly expand our feelings of love” — Radhanath Swami.
An infant thinks only about its own desires and needs. But as the child grows older, its loving propensity begins to expand. It wants to share what it has with others, wants to play with others, and wants to develop relationships with others. Its affection could expand, starting from its parents, to friends, to community, to nation, to humanity, and even to all living beings.
Despite this natural propensity of love to expand, why is there so much frustration in our attempts to find love? Rather, there is disunity within this world on every level: economically, politically, socially and even within the family. Why? Because of a missing common center. An example will illustrate this. When we throw a pebble in a swimming pool, the ripples expand to the brink of that pool. But if the ripples created by different pebbles have different centers, they will collide.
Similarly, in marital relationships, if the desires of both the husband and wife don’t expand from a common center, there will be clashes. There will be frustration as repeated attempts to find true love fail. The solution is to find a common centre. And what is the common centre? According to Bhagvad Gita, and according to every scripture in the world, God is the common centre. If one learns to love God, one will automatically love His parts and parcels – and most definitely, the spouse too.
7 replies on “Ripples in the pool”
Ripples from a common centre don’t collide. Now it is up to us to figure out how to adjust our relationship such that our desires expand out of a common centre. But with such capable and practical counsellors trained by Radhanth Swami, this is only a matter of time.
Hmm ! Sounds to good to be true, but frankly this is a valuable and pratical advise, and yes it is tried and tested and it is the only way which works for real. Is there a cost involved to follow this , monetarily absolutely nothing, as in all that we pursue, just a little endeavour to serve the supreme and married life is blissful even during the ups and downs
If we understand that God has to be center, we can’t experience any happiness. Thanks a lot Radhanath Swami for this message.
It is well communicated here, how important is to have a common center within married life.
My heartfelt gratitude for your wonderful blogs. They are working wonders in my married life. Many thanks to swami Radhanath for inspiring the lifestyle counselors of this wonderful website
Thank you for your sound advice regarding married life. A million thanks to Radhanath swami and his students.
the ripples created by different pebbles have different centers, they will collide.
wonderful!!!