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The Yoga of Marriage

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The Yoga of Marriage If one cares for the whole picture, the little details can be adjusted to blend with the whole, but if one loses sight of the whole picture, little things assume all-importance and cause strife. – Radhanath Swami

Yoga means to bring together, to harmonize, to unite. It’s highest expression is the union of the individual soul with the Supreme Soul God. Union is to become one in love. Unconditional and unmotivated love for God brings about true Yoga.

From a spiritual standpoint, marriage is something more than man and woman living together; it brings together two souls on a much higher level. The husband sees the wife as God’s beloved daughter entrusted by Him to his care. God will appreciate the husband based on how responsibly and protectively he treats the wife, how he respects and honors her as God’s gift. The wife looks upon the husband as God’s child entrusted to her care. God will appreciate her based on how faithful, loving, and caring she is. When this is the relationship’s mood, rapid spiritual progress follows.

As partners in life, the sacred principle is to help each other to become pure. The higher principle is to help each other love God, to help each other become instruments of God’s love for the world. If marriage is to love and protect each other for this divine purpose, then such coming together in marriage is really Yoga. No wonder, Radhanath Swami notes, all different societies traditionally conducted their marriage ceremonies in spiritual places to consecrate the partnership in the service of God.

Anything great is difficult, cheap things come easy. Cheap relationships are easy, but they break in difficult times. Strong, deep, and growing relationships are found on and supported by higher principles. The mind and senses are flickering. Relationships based on their ever changing demands are superficial and short of substance. But by focusing on the divine principles that have brought them together, the spouses can maturely deal with the unavoidable disagreements that arise in any close relationship by harmonizing everything with the higher principles.

Most marital problems germinate from something insignificant and unimportant. If one doesn’t focus on higher principles, unimportant things get importance. If one cares for the whole picture, the little details can be adjusted to blend with the whole, but if one loses sight of the whole picture, little things assume all-importance and cause strife.

The diamond is but a piece of coal that has transformed from crude blackness to multifaceted brilliance under millions of years of high pressure, remarks Radhanath Swami. Similarly, (i) the good and bad times spent together remaining faithful to each other and (ii) negotiating the pressures of married life for the sake of higher principles, are meant to transform the spouses into brilliant gems radiating love of God. This essential principle defines the Yoga of Marriage.

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  1. April 25, 2012

    Shyam Mahtani

    This is a gem of an article, that provides the basic building blocks for a happy marriage. Thank you for sharing.

  2. May 1, 2012

    surekha

    Thank you for this wonderful article explaining marriage is the relationship between husband and wife in order to reach higher principles by helping each other.

  3. May 5, 2012

    Rajeev

    Awesome article, inspirational towards achieving success in married life. Thank you very much.

  4. May 24, 2012

    Rajendra Prasad

    The great thought, “marriages on the basis of higher principles for coming together for service of God-A Yoga”
    The spouses always concentrated on this goal of serving together to God are never in trouble.

  5. July 19, 2012

    prabhat kumar

    very much true and instructive to follow so that we can make our marriage life simple and happy.

  6. May 6, 2013

    Dr Satpute Satchidanand R

    Great article!. Higher principle to cooperate, key to happy marriage and that is yoga to serve in harmony to God. True, always looking at large picture higher goal can remove all the obstacle on happy and loving family.

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