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Wipe It Clean

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Wipe It Clean“If we are eager to find faults in someone, by the Lord’s will, we will see unlimited faults within that person even if there are none. They will appear as glaring as the sun at noon.” – Radhanath Swami.

 

A young couple moved into a new neighborhood. The next morning, while they were having breakfast, the young woman saw her neighbor hang the wash outside. “That laundry is not very clean”, she said, “she doesn’t know how to wash properly. Perhaps she needs better laundry soap”. Her husband looked on, but remained silent. Every time her neighbor would hang her wash to dry, the young woman would make the same comments. About a month later, the woman was surprised to see a nice clean wash on the line and said to her husband: “Look! She has learned how to wash properly. I wonder who taught her this.” The husband said: “I got up early this morning and cleaned our windows!”

Sometimes even spouses tend to compete with each other. Even after marriage the spouses think themselves to be independent persons and not part of a two-member team. “The Lord is seated within everyone’s heart and He reciprocates according to our desires”, explains Radhanath Swami. Yes, there is good and bad everywhere. If we are looking for good qualities in our spouse and opportunities to please him or her, the Lord will reveal them to us. But if we are looking for faults, due to envy born out of unnecessary competition, that’s all we will see. In fact, good qualities in the spouse will only make us more envious of them.

 

Before criticizing the spouse, we should consider the state of our mind. Are we eager to appreciate the spouse for all his or her good work, or are we eager to pass judgments on any little shortcoming? What we see when watching others depends on the purity of the window through which we look. To live a joyful and fulfilling married life, it’s important to clean the window of our heart so that we recognize the good in our partners. The best way of cleaning the window of our heart, wiping it clean of the filth of envy, is to regularly come together and chant the Holy Names of God.

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  1. August 12, 2011

    Abhijit Toley

    Nice one indeed. The analogies are beautiful. They imprint the message in our minds.

  2. August 12, 2011

    gopasana

    yes! we need to clean the window of our hearts as directed by HH Radhanath Swami Maharaj.

  3. August 14, 2011

    Abhijit Toley

    The introducing story is startling and grabs attention. The message then enters alert minds and sinks into receptive hearts.

  4. August 15, 2011

    M Pandu Rangayya Shetty

    With clean spectacles, one can see properly. Cleansing one’s heart is more important than finding faults with others. All glories to Radhanatha Swami.

  5. August 15, 2011

    Neha

    Its so true. Swamiji has explained true secret of one’s married life..”To clean the window of our own heart”. If people follow this principle, practically there will not be any divorce. Thank you so much.

  6. August 16, 2011

    Milind M Churi

    A very nice analogy is herein by Swamiji of a glass window.It is better for us to clean glass of our window before looking at others.It is good for us also and others also.Thank you very much for sharing with us.

  7. August 16, 2011

    madri

    Can’t Thank Radhanath swami enough for his most practical explanations and teachings, after reading his words of wisdom everything makes perfect sense.” What we see when watching others depends on the purity of the window through which we look”. Simple yet very profound. Worth implementing in life.

  8. August 17, 2011

    Manasa

    This is very important in our life “it’s important to clean the window of our heart so that we recognize the good in our partners”

  9. August 24, 2011

    Shoba Ramachandran

    Beautiful article! Thanks to the author for highlighting the need for the spouses to come and chant together to understand that they are a team in achieving higher goal and its unnecessary to compete. Infact it is detrimental to our own life and to our spouse’s life t o be envious and compete.

  10. October 8, 2011

    Vinayak

    Before finding faults in others, we forget to find what’s wrong with us in the first place. We should think of cleaning ourselves before correcting ohters. Thank you for this story which is an eye-opener.

  11. November 1, 2011

    Sandesh

    The spouse are supposed to act as a team and not as individuals- great guidance!

  12. May 24, 2012

    Riya

    i really like the conversation mentioned in the beginning. it is very funny

  13. June 26, 2012

    Rajendra Prasad

    Unless we are clean from envy and filth we would not be able to get rid of fault finding tendency. This cleaning is only possible with the association of clean people and chanting holly names regularily.

  14. June 7, 2013

    Kalpana Kulkarni

    True! we are always quick to criticise others. We should look into our hearts before doing so. And if we are looking our for faults, we will never be able to see good.

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