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Toys are poison

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Fighting for Petty Things“My mother witnessed her three little sons as they fought amongst themselves over toys. She used to say “toys are poison” because they cause so much trouble” — Radhanath Swami

Adults look at children and say, “Such stupid children, fighting over such stupid things. After all, what is a toy? Just a cheap piece of plastic. And these children are fighting over it!” But adults have their ‘toys’ too, both animate and inanimate, over which they fight—who belongs to whom, what belongs to whom. And sometimes that fight ends in a divorce. If we simply understand the second chapter of Bhagavata Gita, all problems of this world will be solved. This chapter tells us who we really are. We are not this body, for whose needs we childishly fight. We are spirit souls. Our original nature is that we are eternal, full of knowledge, and full of bliss.

As a spirit soul passes from boyhood to youth to old age, at the time of death, the spirit soul will simply enter another body (BG 2.13). Why then should we make such a big deal out of superficial temporary situations? As for the temporary happiness derived from temporary ‘toys’ of this world, Prahlad, a King of Vedic times, said something interesting. “Nobody tries for miseries, but they come anyways. Similarly, even happiness will come anyways. So, why endeavor for happiness?” He goes one step further, “If anybody wants to be happy, it is very easy. Just stop endeavoring to be happy in this material world. Because as soon as we endeavor to be happy, we become implicated by all the causes of suffering. Whatever happiness and distress is going to come, will come anyways, whether you try for it or not. So why not spend our valuable time to cultivate spiritual happiness by turning to God?”

  1. July 26, 2011


    If Every Person Understand The Essence Of Above Article Then Each & Every Person Comes To Spiritual Platform & Become Happy.

  2. July 27, 2011

    Sumit Sharma

    Very nice and clear message from Radhanath Swami. What a wonderful way he has described the realities of this material world.

  3. July 28, 2011

    M Pandu Rangayya Shetty

    Anything that gives temporary pleasure to the body is poison. But that gives pleasure to the soul is nectar. All thanks are due to Radhanatha Swami for giving us very nice explanation to accept to devotional service.

  4. July 28, 2011

    K S Subramanian

    If only the adults could outgrow their silly toys! If only we would stop trying for happiness!

    Thank you Radhanath Swami for the elegant solutions to intractable problems..

  5. July 29, 2011

    Shyam kishore das

    So powerful. What an incredible perspective on life and marriage.

  6. July 30, 2011


    So true. Thank you for reminding this fundamental truth through this article.

  7. July 30, 2011

    Milind M Churi

    Good explaination using a plastic toy as an example.Thank you Radhanath Swamiji.

  8. August 5, 2011


    This is very much applicable to everybody’s life ,,,,,,,

  9. April 15, 2012

    Pranjal dixit

    Very appropriate title,”Toys are poison “. We always have toys, age is a deception, regardless of age we are caught in vicious propaganda of choosing our toys and fighting over it.

  10. February 8, 2013

    sada nandini

    Thank you Radhanath swami for this wonderful article saying that if we can take both sufferings and happiness will come in our life in the same way. So, instead of worrying about these things, we should focus on our real goal of life.

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