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boy doing worshipAusterity means putting aside our selfish ambitions for a higher purpose

– Radhanath Swami

A little boy was sitting and eating a mango. He loved mangoes and so was enjoying the sweet taste of the luscious fruit. Just then his mom came and reminded him that it was his turn of deity worship the next day. In their house it was rule, everyone had to do deity worship by turns and tomorrow was his turn.

“Oh no!” he thought to himself. He did not like to do deity worship. Sometimes he would try to get out of it. Sometimes he would just do the deity worship really quickly so it would be over as soon as possible.

That day he thought, “Oh well, it is my turn, then I have to do it.” The next morning when he started doing the worship, it did not seem so bad. “May be”, he thought to himself, “this could be fun”. But he soon forgot about it as there were so many other things to do.

The next time when it was his turn for worship, he did not mind. In fact he almost found himself looking forward to it. To his surprise he was enjoying it. Soon he started doing deity worship even when it was not his turn.

The more he liked, the more he wanted to do. And the more he did, the more he liked it. The more and more he did deity worship, the more and more he liked doing it. Until one day the liking became loving!

Let’s learn a lesson from this story: Marital relationships go deep when we treat our spouse as a sacred child of God who’s put under our care. To live with such a conception may be an austerity in the beginning, but if we try sincerely, soon we will like it, and our love will grow deep and real, beyond the superficial.

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  1. June 12, 2013

    Kalpana Kulkarni

    Wonderful way of looking at relationships!

  2. June 12, 2013

    anjan

    Thank you swami Radhanath for this wonderful analogy and perspective on treating one’s spouse as a child of god.

  3. June 14, 2013

    Aishwarya

    Marital life is life of deep responsibility.

  4. June 15, 2013

    ASH

    Very instructive. Attitude makes all the difference!

  5. June 17, 2013

    Kalpana Kulkarni

    Thank you for showing us how to view people and our relationships with them!

  6. August 15, 2013

    Swapnil Gaonkar

    Going deeper in relationship and being sensitive to each other, keeping God in the center of the family is the need of the hour. Thank you Radhanath Swami

  7. August 16, 2013

    Prajakta Timbe

    Just amazing inference from the moral story of boy.Keeping the God in center and treating each other as kids of lord, our loving relationship get bloomed.

  8. September 17, 2013

    Chandrika

    Thank you for this wonderful article.

  9. October 27, 2013

    Poonam kamath

    mmmmm…..true..though difficult…..but it s true,becoz in the end what remains s only the connection.

  10. January 10, 2014

    mahesh jadhav

    Good one

  11. February 7, 2014

    Dr Yuvaraj Bhosale

    Marital relationships go deep when we treat our spouse as a sacred child of God who’s put under our care. To live with such a conception may be an austerity in the beginning, but if we try sincerely, soon we will like it, and our love will grow deep and real, beyond the superficial….this is great

  12. September 22, 2014

    Amala Bhakti Rani

    So true ..in married life ..there are lot of challenges ..& ego …but as Maharaj pointed out that if we treat our spouse as God’s sacred child then it is possible to grow deep & real love …beyond the superficial.. Maharaj , please bless me & continue guiding through life’s roller coaster rides. Thank you .

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