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The Imposter“When there is love in our heart, only love will come out” — Radhanath Swami

Lasting relationships are based on love. And yet, why do so many loving relationships see unhappy endings? It’s not because love was lost, but because it was never really love; it was the look-alike, i.e., lust.

The difference between lust and love is that one is selfish while the other is selfless. Lust is based on ignorance and love on truth. Under the misconception that they are mere physical bodies, many lovers seek from their partners sensations that give pleasure to their own bodies. This is selfish lust, because the goal is one’s own pleasure. The proof of such selfishness is that as soon as the partner stops providing enough pleasure, the so-called love vanishes.

But real love is selfless. It’s about giving, not taking; it’s about the beloved, not the lover. True love is based on the truth that we are not mere physical bodies. We are eternal souls residing within our bodies. The eternal nature of the soul is to love God and all His children selflessly. When we understand this eternal nature of the soul, and when we experience the sublime pleasure of giving ourselves selflessly to reach the soul of an­other, then we know what true love is.

“When our desires get disconnected from eternal truth, they become lust. But when our desires get reunited with eternal truth, all of them become an ex­pression of true love.” — Radhanath Swami.

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  1. September 23, 2011

    duruvan

    Also Maharaja explains that just by chanting the Mahamantra one can revive that love in full directed to the Supreme

  2. September 26, 2011

    Vidya Patham

    Thank you for writing about the nature of true love – how it means to sacrifice and not be selfish.

  3. September 30, 2011

    Paramesvara Dasa

    Love and lust may look alike but they have different end-results. Love from the soul within the heart to Krishna is the truth, others are lust. All glories to Radhanatha Swami.

  4. October 12, 2011

    Pankaj

    Very profound and clear explanation of Love and Lust

  5. October 13, 2011

    Rajendra prasad

    Here difference between love and lust has been very well explained by Maharaj Ji. Practically all of us have been experiencing lust only and because of that there is dissatisfaction and frustration is ubiquitous.

  6. October 17, 2011

    Pravin

    very very nice point
    real love is selfless. It’s about giving, not taking; it’s about the beloved, not the lover.

  7. May 28, 2012

    Rajendra Prasad

    Maharaji ji has explained fundamentals of love. When our relationships are on the platform of soul and dealings are in relationship with Krishna, then the loving exchanges are true love, otherwise it is lust only if based on bodily platform.

  8. August 28, 2013

    chandrika

    Nice message.

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