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The cookie thief

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The cookie theifA woman was waiting at an airport one night, with several long hours before her flight. She hunted for a book in the airport shops, bought a bag of cookies and found a place to drop.

She was engrossed in her book but happened to see, that the man sitting beside her, as bold as could be. . .grabbed a cookie or two from the bag in between, which she tried to ignore to avoid a scene.

So she munched the cookies and watched the clock, as the gutsy cookie thief diminished her stock. She was getting more irritated as the minutes ticked by, thinking, “If I wasn’t so nice, I would blacken his eye.”

With each cookie she took, he took one too, when only one was left, she wondered what he would do. With a smile on his face, and a nervous laugh, he took the last cookie and broke it in half.

He offered her half, as he ate the other, she snatched it from him and thought… oooh, brother. This guy has some nerve and he’s also rude, why he didn’t even show any gratitude!

She had never known when she had been so galled, and sighed with relief when her flight was called. She gathered her belongings and headed to the gate, refusing to look back at the thieving ingrate.

She boarded the plane, and sank in her seat, then she sought her book, which was almost complete. As she reached in her baggage, she gasped with surprise, there was her bag of cookies, in front of her eyes.

If mine are here, she moaned in despair, the others were his, and he tried to share. Too late to apologize, she realized with grief, that she was the rude one, the ingrate, the thief.

We are often too quick to misjudge people. Especially when we nurture the feeling that we are right, most often than not, we are the wrong one! Whenever we feel we’re right and the other person is wrong, if we give the other person the benefit of doubt, we gain the ability to see through things with more clarity as sooner or later, providence will reveal to us the reality of things around us.

By learning to appreciate people around us and being thankful to circumstances that come upon us, we slowly open the dimension of seeing things as they are! As Radhanath Swami says “Gratitude is to honour, recognize and appreciate everyone and everything for a higher purpose.”

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  1. February 19, 2013

    sumit

    Very instructive article.. and i myself could imagine in that scene.. as i too have misunderstood people many times… And Lastly the real meaning of “gratitude” explained by Radhanath swami was amazing because some time when we artificially show gratitude it might inflate our false ego.. but as explained by Radhanath swami that it should be for higher purpose…

  2. February 20, 2013

    navin poojary

    True! When we juudge we only end up misjudging . Hence we should accept people for what they are !

  3. February 20, 2013

    Sada Nandini

    Thank you for this very wonderful article of how we should not misjudge the other person without knowing the purpose.

  4. February 21, 2013

    Vinay Malani

    The story narrated by Radhanath Swami teaches us how it is very imperative to give up the bad habits of fault finding & being judgemental if we are to ever make spiritual advancement.

  5. February 21, 2013

    nandkishor das

    “Gratitude is to honour, recognize and appreciate everyone and everything for a higher purpose.” Vow, so sublime

  6. February 24, 2013

    Santpal Goel

    Wonderful story to explain that we should not find faults in others.

  7. April 1, 2013

    Aishwarya

    This article reminds me of the axiom-Judge not or you will be …

  8. May 14, 2013

    Rajaruban

    Absolutely loved this post! There is a lot to learn from the gentleman in this narration.

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