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Why Do We Shout In Anger?

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Why Do We Shout In Anger?A saint asked his disciples, ‘Why do we shout in anger? Why do people shout at each other when they are upset?’
Disciples thought for a while, one of them said, ‘Because we lose our calm, we shout for that.’ ‘But, why to shout when the other person is just next to you?’ asked the saint. ‘Isn’t it possible to speak to him or her with a soft voice? Why do you shout at a person when you’re angry?’ Disciples gave some other answers but none satisfied the saint. Finally he explained, ‘When two people are angry at each other, their hearts distance a lot. To cover that distance they must shout to be able to hear each other. The angrier they are, the stronger they will have to shout to hear each other through that great distance.’

Then the saint asked, ‘What happens when two people fall in love? They don’t shout at each other but talk softly, why? Because their hearts are very close. The distance between them is very small…’
The saint continued, ‘When they love each other even more, what happens? They do not speak, only whisper and they get even closer to each other in their love. Finally they even need not whisper, they only look at each other and that’s all. That is how close two people are when they love each other.’

So, when you argue do not let your hearts get distant, do not say words that distance each other more, else there will come a day when the distance is so great that you will not find the path to return. Radhanath Swami says that anger is a very dangerous thing. It can deviate even the intelligent to be degraded. A very good person can live the rest of his life in a prison due to his one mistake he made when he lost his temper.

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  1. October 9, 2012

    Kalpana Kulkarni

    Very informative article! So true that when people are angry, they tend to shout at each other. Very wonderful explanation is given that people shout because their hearts are distanced. Thank you for sharing.

  2. October 10, 2012

    Sumit Sharma

    Amazing explanation of the distance of hearts when people are angry at each other.

  3. October 10, 2012

    Vinay Malani

    Its a very informative & useful lesson on Anger Management by Radhanath Swami.

  4. October 11, 2012

    monish

    thamk u for sharing vimp article whuch shows how our hearts become distance away wen v shout on our loved one

  5. October 11, 2012

    Rajesh

    “When two people are angry at each other… their hearts are distant” – how beautifully anger has been explained. The sentence has caught the gist of anger.
    This also means that if you continue to love everyone, you won’t get angry.

  6. October 12, 2012

    navin poojary

    This is such a practical and wonderful advice ! Thanks

  7. October 15, 2012

    abhay

    Good advice. I also fell pray to this whenever I was angry and later in almost all the cases , I repented.

  8. October 15, 2012

    Kiran Bhalwane

    The article is so beautifully written. The thoughts about distance between hearts is so true. Radhanath Maharaj uses such simple ways to explain the concepts that are relevant to every person.

  9. October 17, 2012

    Deep Nishad

    The last line of the article is very true. I know that there are many people in prison who just did one wrong thing in their lives, in a fit of anger.. and now they have to suffer for the rest of their lives.

  10. October 17, 2012

    Pankaj Dewani

    One can use the suggestions given in this article, in our real lives. If your relationship is important, “dont’ say words that distance each other more”. I think that’s the golden rule to take away from this article.

  11. October 22, 2012

    Swapnil

    Very true..Never thought of this before !!! Thank you Radhanath Swami for your advice and warnings. I need to work upon this

  12. October 25, 2012

    umesh

    an instructive article on “anger”. The explanation of how when the distance increases between two people, the sound increases was the highlight of the article.

  13. October 26, 2012

    Y.Raja Shekar

    As HH Radhanath Swami says, one small mistake made in anger may lead us to eternal difficulties. How oftne this happens in many examples we see in the lives of others. Hope I deeply contemplate on this warning of HH Radhanath Swami and try to implement.

  14. January 9, 2013

    Ishwar Pandit

    Anger is such an amazing and powerful thing. In the absence of proper guidance and training, a moment’ anger has the power to overcome even a lifetime’ effort spent in training one to lead a life of self-regulation.

  15. January 10, 2013

    umesh

    A very important piece of information for all especially married couples..

  16. January 13, 2013

    Sumit

    Amazing explanation.. and in reality it is so much valid… Thank you for sharing such a wonderful article… Thank you Maharaj…

  17. January 14, 2013

    Vishnu

    Its very true, and i got so inspired that i shared this article with all of my colleague in office.
    Thanks you Maharaja for this nice article.

  18. January 17, 2013

    Sada Nandini

    Thank you very much Radhanath swami for this wonderful article on the consequences of anger.

  19. January 21, 2013

    Vrushali

    Thank you for this amazing story! Anger is indeed so detrimental to our life!

  20. January 29, 2013

    Suvarna

    When we add one alphabet D to Anger, it turns to Danger. Very nice explanation given by H.H.Radhanath Swami Maharaj.

  21. February 21, 2013

    achyuta

    Many thanks to Radhanath swami for pointing out the ill-effects of anger.

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