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Our greatest enemyIn the heart that harbors the weed of selfish greed, the flower of love cannot survive. However, to conquer one’s envy, lust and greed, now that is truly monumental - Radhanath Swami

In a certain place, the fishermen were catching fish. A kite swooped down and snatched a fish. At the sight of the fish, about twenty crows chased the kite and made a great noise with their cawing. Whichever way the kite flew with the fish, the crows followed it. The kite flew to the south and the crows followed it there. The kite flew to the north and still the crows followed after
it. The kite went east and west, but the crows chased it nevertheless. As the kite began to fly about in confusion, it got tired and let go of the fish from its mouth. The crows at once let the kite alone and flew after the fish. Thus relieved of its worries, the kite sat on the branch of a tree and thought, “That wretched fish was the root of all my troubles. I have now gotten rid of it and therefore I am at peace.” As long as a man has the fish, that is, lusty desires, he must perform actions and consequently suffer from worry, anxiety and restlessness. No sooner does he renounce these lusty desires than his troubles fade away and he enjoys peace of the soul. The kite cannot live without the fish, for it needs the fish to survive. But luckily for us, there is no such compulsion, as we can survive without lust. However, when we learn that lusty desires and suffering come bundled together in a take-it-or-leave-it package, we are exposed to a choice. What we choose thereafter leads us to the path of suffering or onto the path of liberation and eternal bliss. The choice is ours!

Lord Krishna tells us in the Bhagavad-gita that, “It is lust only, Arjuna, which is born of contact with the material mode of passion and later transformed into wrath, and which is the all-devouring sinful enemy of this world.”

An enemy to whom you show kindness becomes your friend,excepting lust, the indulgence of which increases its enmity – Saadi

  1. March 5, 2012

    pranjal dixit

    In the heart that harbors the weed of selfish greed, the flower of love cannot survive. What an amazing line.

  2. March 14, 2012

    Anand

    The author has rightly brought out the point that unlike the Kite which can’t survive without the fish, we are not under any compulsion that we can’t live without lust. Choice is ours if we want to be liberated or want to suffer in this world.

  3. March 15, 2012

    sajeev

    Transcending lusty desires is not easy. One has to make constant endeavors, of which, sometimes he may fail in all…the endeavor should not cease despite failures. thank u for the wonderful article.

  4. March 24, 2012

    Paramesvara Dasa

    To protect oneself, he should be away from lusty desires. All glories to HH Radhanatha Swami Maharaja.

  5. May 16, 2012

    ajinkya

    it is ground level solution for removing envy of heart to maintain love only spirituality can help.

  6. May 20, 2012

    Shyam Mahtani

    Thank you for this wonderful instruction, Swamiji. Lust is indeed our biggest enemy.

  7. May 25, 2012

    anil

    wonderful article….. surely we need to let go of the lusty desires…that’s the root cause…

  8. May 29, 2012

    Kalpana Kulkarni

    Wonderful article and story about the kite as to how we should let go of materialistic desires.

  9. September 3, 2012

    Kalpana Kulkarni

    Very true! We have to let go of our lusty desires if we want to be peaceful and happy.

  10. October 4, 2012

    swathi .k

    lust is all devouring sinful enemy of this world.

  11. February 18, 2013

    Sada Nandini

    Thank you Radhanath swami for this very wonderful article telling us how lusty desires can cause so many problems in this world and make us entangle in the cycle of birth and death.

  12. February 21, 2013

    anand

    lust followed by anger can ruin one’s spiritual propensity to serve, one must curb it with diligence

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