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Freedom to FlyTolerance is one of the most important quality in a human being. It really needs courage to be tolerant in provoking situations. – Radhanath Swami

In married life, often times people give up, they separate or divorce. Well, they separate because they just cannot tolerate each other anymore. They become intolerant, they cannot see each other’s face, it becomes too disturbing and difficult to endure a living with the other.

There is a story of a man who pitied the butterfly’s struggle when it was forcing its body through a little hole of its cocoon. When it didn’t seem to make any progress, unable to bear its struggle, he snipped off the remaining bit of the cocoon with a pair of scissors. Then, though the butterfly came out quickly, it had a swollen body and small, shriveled wings. It came out prematurely and had to spend the rest of its life crawling around with a swollen body and shriveled wings. It never was able to fly. What the man in his kindness and haste did not understand was that its struggle to get out of the cocoon was God’s way of forcing fluid from the body of the butterfly into its wings so that it would be ready for flight once it achieved its freedom from the cocoon.

Similarly, though we may not realize, our struggles are exactly what we need in our life. If God gave us some struggle in life, we must accept it with the understanding that He is giving us the opportunity to become a beautiful butterfly with freedom from the cocoon, at the end if it. If we prematurely snip off the difficulties without enduring them, it would only leave us crippled.

Radhanath Swami says that there will be many storms in our life, but if, even in the impossible helpless situations, we endure it all and maintain our faith in the Lord, then that very storm will cleanse our heart.

  1. September 21, 2011


    wonderful, something to think consiously and live by this principle all our lives

  2. September 22, 2011


    we should accept the struggle given by god in our life.

  3. September 22, 2011


    A very nice article which explains us to be always tolerant and remember god’s mercy when we are facing struggles in our life.

  4. September 24, 2011

    Abhijit Toley

    I like these examples. They paint a picture and a picture says a thousand words. Thanks Radhanath Swami.

  5. September 26, 2011

    Milind M Churi

    Fantastic article.Very nice advice herein given by Swamiji.If we give up difficulties in our married life we may find ourself, a crippled one and if we face it taking it is a God’s grace then there is a hope of cleansing our heart and coursing towards freedom.Thank you very much.

  6. October 1, 2011

    Sumit Sharma

    Wonderful article on tolerance. It’s very important to understand how we should be tolerant.

  7. October 9, 2011


    Never doubt God’s plan, which is perfect & this is what this story teaches us. Thank you, Maharaj for teaching us the real values in life.

  8. September 7, 2012

    Vidya Patham

    Thank you Maharaj for your words of hope in times of difficulty. They truly act as a guiding light for us.

  9. September 9, 2012

    Kalpana Kulkarni

    Wonderful article on tolerance. helps us to realize that we should tolerate our troubles and bad situations as this is God’s way for moulding our character and giving us strength.

  10. August 27, 2013

    Kalpana Kulkarni

    Very true! We do not have tolerance at all leading to dissatisfied relationships. Wonderful analogy of our helpless situations to the butterfly’s struggle to come out of the cocoon!

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