Love is the greatest need in life. If you have it, you are happy in any situation; if you do not have it, you are miserable and lonely in all situations.
The most important aspect of the soul, the Vedas explain, is ananda – bliss. The soul is by nature full of bliss. This bliss originates in love. Therefore, love is the greatest need. When we forget our eternal love for God, we try to somehow experience that love within this world – desperately. Looking for love in the temporary objects of this world is called kama – lust. In essence, it means trying to enjoy in the state of ignorance of the fact that the endeavor to find happiness in matter has nothing to do with our true self.
Lust manifests most powerfully in relationships between man and woman. The husband and wife, in the name of love, desperately try to find happiness by enjoying each other. Unfortunately, since such attempts cannot really satisfy the soul, a lot of problems can arise. The moment the spouse stops giving enough enjoyment, frustration sets in, leading to serious quarrels. The solution is to understand that material relationships can never give real happiness to the soul. The soul is looking for a spiritual experience in connection with God, an experience of unlimited love.
When both spouses awaken to this knowledge, instead of seeking happiness in enjoying each other lustily, they will seek happiness in serving God lovingly. Since love for God is the source of all happiness, such a God – centered married life will flood their life with true love and bliss.
13 replies on “Lust or Love?”
A correct analysis of the problems which married couples face in their life.It will help those who read this article and apply it in theri life.Thank you very much.
The concept of love and lust is well explained in this article. The journey home book, an autobiography of HH Radhanath Swami eleicits true love centered on God. The life of HH Radhanath Swami is truly a guidline for all husbands and wives how to share thier love and get that inner satisfaction which is long lasting.
Lust and love cannot co-exist in relationship. It has to be lust OR love, and the earlier the choice is made in favour of love, the better it is for the health and longevity of the relationship.
“Lust or Love” Very nicely explained by Radhanath Swami.
Everyone is seeking pleasure, but there is only one pleasure that can reach the heart, that is the pleasure of giving love and receiving love. We need love, that’s our nature.Thank you H.H.Radhanath swami.
hare krishna, please need more guidance in this aspect as the lust is really very difficult to control, despite of many instructions.
Very important lesson for, to be happy, in serving the Lord, but enjoying with each other. All glories to Radhnatha Swami.
Thank you very much this article is really very important to understand and practice in married life.
Today, divorce rate is increasing in the society as the bonding is not based on true love, as explained by Radhanath Swami.
Very nice article explaining the difference between Love and Lust – Thank you so much for such insightful instructions.
Very beautifully written article. A million thanks for helping out couples like us
If both husband and wife engage themselves in service of Krishna, then true love manifests to their hearts.
Thank you for showing us the real difference between love and lust.