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Irreconcilable Differences

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Happy marriageSometimes life makes you take such tough decisions. But as they say, when the going gets tough the tough get going. Marriage is definitely for tough people. To make a marriage last, one should have a tough skin and the ability to switch-on and switch-off one’s ears!! There is a joke about a man who was happily married for about 50 years of his life. His friends asked him the secret of his smiling face. He replied that he was hard of hearing from childhood and so he could switch-off his hearing aid whenever he wanted. That’s a smart man. I wish we women also could do something like that. Anyways, jokes apart, one has to slog to make any marriage work.

In the earlier days, couples would stick together no matter what—even if they had irreconcilable differences. Today, these words—irreconcilable differences—are thrown here and there at the drop of a hat—for freedom! But really, can a marriage be broken just based on these words—irreconcilable differences? I would say the couples in the earlier days were more tolerant than those belonging to today’s jet-set world of technology, where everything is fast or instant—fast cars, instant noodles, fast marriages and instant divorce!

Couples today have no time to resolve any issues in marriage patiently. If this was the case with my parents, I would never have a safe and secure childhood; I wouldn’t get the privileged love of both my mother and father; rather, I would be put in the horrible position of deciding which parent I loved most. I feel that is the most painful thing you could ask a child—“Do you love your mother more or your father more?”

– Dr. Sandhya Subramanian

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  1. June 26, 2011

    Milind M Churi

    Absolutly Correct.May Saintly people like HH.Radhanath Swami help people manage the thing by understanding sacred meaning of the marriage.Thank you.

  2. June 28, 2011

    Parag Udeshi

    Very well said Sandhya. Truly marriages today are very fragile and couples need a lot of education to understand the true meaning of bonding together.

  3. June 29, 2011

    Ram Mohan

    Radhanath Swami Maharaj often talks about living with healthy differences. Radhanath Swami Maharaj says that diffrences are bound to be there but we should transcend them by working together for a higher cause.

  4. July 3, 2011

    Y. Raja Shekar

    Very nice article. If we follow the advises of great saints like HH Radhanath Swami, then surely we would not become victims of these paltry irreconcilable differences.

  5. July 4, 2011

    shyama radhika dd

    Very instructive article for those who take institution of marriage lightly.

  6. July 5, 2011

    M Pandu Rangayya Shetty

    Without proper guidance, it is very difficult to go along with married life. A perfect can make an imperfect a perfect. Radhantha Swami is such a perfect person to make others who are imperfect perfect. All glories to Rdahantha Swami.

  7. July 11, 2011

    MPD

    very inspiring site must for grhastas

  8. July 12, 2011

    Pankaj Mehta

    This should be read by all the householders. Thank u.

  9. July 14, 2011

    Anand

    You have brought forth the real difficulties of today’s married life. Couples today need to be more patient & tolerant in solving their disputes.

  10. July 21, 2011

    anand

    Haribol!

  11. July 21, 2011

    Shoba Ramachandran

    An article that every house holder must read…Thanks!

  12. January 13, 2013

    Kalpana Kulkarni

    Very true! Sometimes couples stay together for the sake of the children.

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