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Don’t be Childish

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Don't be ChildishThe nature of the mind is that sometimes you like each other and sometimes you don’t like each other; sometimes you are angry with each other and sometimes you are happy with each other. This is because the ego is very flickering, the mind is even more flickering, and the senses are all the more flickering — Radhanath Swami

A child may cry for a new toy he sees in the toy store and won’t let you get out of the store unless you buy it. So, you give into its plea and shell out a large amount. The child stops crying and plays with it the whole evening. Next morning you find him uninterested in the toy and he now wants something new to play with! Similarly, our desires are flickering and insatiable. Our mind always tries to seek something new, something different. So, if our relationship is based on these superficial principles such as desires of the mind or the senses or the ego, then our relationship is very superficial, it is without much substance and may soon lose sheen.

Radhanath Swami reminds us that marriage is a sacred event and therefore it is sanctified in a sacred place like a church or a temple. It is to be taken as a priority, above everything else. When we focus on the sacred principle that has brought us together, and harmonize whatever that may come in our lives according to that, our relationship deepens, and is no longer based on the flickering nature of the ego, mind and senses.

‘The embodied soul may be restricted from sense enjoyment, though the taste for sense objects remains. But, ceasing such engagements by experiencing a higher taste, he is fixed in consciousness.’ (Bhagavad Gita 2.59)

 

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  1. June 24, 2011

    Nilesh

    Thank you very much for such an inspiring article. It would help us to make our family bonds more stronger…

  2. June 24, 2011

    Anand

    Good explanation by Radhanath Swami that we should build our marital relationship on strong foundation of our true identity as servants of God.

  3. June 27, 2011

    Chetan

    Radhanath Swami has very nicely explained how marriage is a sacred event and how it should no longer be based on the flickering nature of the ego, mind and senses.

  4. June 28, 2011

    Piyush Singh

    Brilliant analogy presenting very vital information about the mind and the need to curb the negative nature of mind. The point from Radhanath Swami is also deep and should help anyone who follows the advice. Thank you very much for sharing.

  5. July 4, 2011

    ajay s

    if we see the principle behind this bond many marriages can be saved.

  6. July 5, 2011

    Anand

    Hare Krishna!

    Maharaj instructs so well. How aptly he arrives at the root cause of all the problems in a marital relationship! It is the insatiable lust. If we are focussed on just serving the Lord and be co-operative with the spouse, our very home is Vaikuntha!

  7. July 5, 2011

    M Pandu Rangayya Shetty

    Better to pursue for higher taste than to satisfy with inferior one. Radhanatha Swami is readily available to get one higher taste. all glories to Radhanatha Swami.

  8. July 11, 2011

    Sundar

    Wonderful. relationships are not to satisfy the mind, but for spiritual advancement.

  9. July 12, 2011

    Meera Sharma

    Radhanath Swami has brought up the root cause of dissatisfaction in marriage, mainly it is due to uncontrolled mind and demand of the senses. Thank you Radhanath Swami for your wisdom.

  10. July 13, 2011

    Sumi t Sharma

    Wonderful message from Radhanath Swami. This is due to false ego only that we are in this material world. But if we can purify this ego to have real ego, we would go back home back to Godhead.

  11. February 1, 2012

    Prajakta

    very nice article.It will help me to make the family bonds more stronger.

  12. September 10, 2012

    Kalpana Kulkarni

    Very true! Mind is always flickering and difficult to control!

  13. August 20, 2013

    Kalpana Kulkarni

    Wonderful explanation of how our mind is always flickering looking out for newer things everyday because we are never satisfied with what we get. It iks only when we have a spiritual perspective that our relationships and attitude deepens.

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